Its not them, its you (subtitled: When you see crazy, cross the street)

So I was at dinner with some friends last night; and during conversation one of them was relaying a story in which she responded to someone who asked her a question about how she was raising her son. To which I asked said friend, "Why did you even respond?". She giggled, and I told her, "You don't respond to crazy, when you see crazy, cross the street!"

That's been sticking with me this morning. I originally planned to title this post just "its not them, its you" but I think that the ability to recognize crazy is central to that concept.

At any rate; the moral of today's lesson is, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news--if you continually keep running into the same type of people in your life, its not "them" that has a problem, its you sweetie. If ever person you were roommates with in college was a crazy, deranged lunatic---ummmm, you need to go to the mirror, point, and say "its not them, its me!" If every man you've ever dealt with was a pot-smoking, unemployed, baby daddy, who came to get him some cookies and never spent the night---go to the mirror and say "its not them, its me!". If every boss you've ever had micromanaged, wrote down when you came in late, and generally was sucky---go to the mirror and say, "its not them, its me!"

You see; we attract what we are. And the problem with this; is most people don't realize that before its too late. If you get ONE bad roommate, then ok. If you get FOUR; then more than likely, you are finding flaws with them unconsciously OR you are the problem roommate and don't realize it. No one has that much bad luck. Its just not cosmically possible. But it is very much cosmically possible for you to attract the same type of whatever, in all situations. You look for it, you crave it, you just "find" those that fit that criteria.

So when you realize that is happening, personally, I do it by the 2nd one of "whatever"; then you need to change up something in your life. You need to make an effort to recognize, hey, this is happening to me again--so I must alter something about myself and my aura so this type of person will not be attracted to me and vice versa.

Or; you need to be able to take a critical look at yourself. Feel free to ask a friend (if you have any, because if YOU'RE the crazy one, you probably don't have very many LOL)You always fall out with females cause they are jealous? Mmmm, maybe you keep attracting people who envy you because it makes you feel superior. You keep falling for men who can't commit? Maybe its cause you are sleeping with them as soon as they look at you cross-eyed. Every organization you've been in, no one wants to listen to your ideas? Maybe its because you scream your ideas out at inappropriate times and stomp off like a child when they tell you to table it to new business. *Kanye shrug* You have to be willing to look in that mirror!

This is also where the crazy detector comes in handy---you have to recognize it and be willing and able to walk away from it when it comes down your aisle. When you walk down the street and the homeless man, bless his soul, is sitting under the overpass talking to himself--you might hand him some money, but do you try to answer his nonsensical ramblings? I hope not! Instead, you might slip him something, and cross the street--hoping that he will get the help he needs from a person trained to deal with his ailments.

You have to be willing to do the same with the people that come into your life, unless you are trained to deal with their ish. When that crazy detector goes off---cross the damn street!!!!!! There is no obligation to deal with those that it just makes zero sense to deal with.

And FYI; if I know you personally and I haven't been dealing with you, you just found out its because my crazy detector went off...:)

Toodles!

ReaLM

Anybody But Carol Campaign winding down...

Oohh; I have been wanting to write THIS blog for the longest, but Snowmeggedon and bronchitis prevented me...but here we go:

Carol Mosely-Braun is the biggest joke since Alan Keyes. When I say; as a black female that I am soundly insulted that SHE was the best "black candidate" we could come up with in the first real mayoral race in over 20 years that is an understatement. Let's take a quick look at Carol's travails this election cycle:

• Said she wasn't disclosing her tax returns (the only candidate to not do so) changed her mind the next day, revealed she earned $15,000 in 2008 and $0 in 2009; but has a 4.5 million dollars worth of mortgages. So you earn so little you qualify for food stamps, but you have a home in the millions. Either she is a dumb ass or a liar. I won't venture to say which.
• Tells a marginal candidate during a community forum in which the candidates are sitting on the altar, for all intents and purposes, that she doesn't know what Carol's been doing for the last 20 years because she's bee on "crack". So you calling folks crackheads now?
• Releases her sole tv ad invoking the fact that she wasn't allowed to play with her white neighbor when she was 7 years old as the impetus for not allowing patronage. HUH?
• Maintains she is in 2nd place; she is barely holding on to 3rd

I launched the ABBC campaign several weeks ago not realizing that I would have so little work to do because the idiocy of the candidate would do the damage all by itself.

I will say that Carol is proof that just because you're black, doesn't mean black folks 1) like you 2) will vote for you. If the black folks running for office would take the time to actually NOT take the black vote for granted, they would figure that out. It is my fervent hope and prayer that Carol and her hair will go softly into that good night, back to her million dollar house, avoid the muggers, and brew up some coffee at her sham company. But please Carol; leave Chicago alone; just like you've done for the last 13 years. We've been doing just fine without you.

So Chicago, vote early, vote often and vote for Anybody But Carol!!!!! *two fingers*